Signs Your Expectations Are Putting Burden On Your Child
Signs Your Expectations Are Putting Burden On Your Child
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They’re constantly anxious about failing
If your child seems more worried about disappointing you than learning or growing, your expectations might be weighing heavily on them.
They hide their struggles from you
When kids feel they have to be perfect, they may start hiding mistakes or challenges just to avoid your disapproval.
They’ve stopped enjoying things they once loved
What used to be fun—like drawing, playing sports, or music—now feels like a chore or a competition. That’s a red flag.
They’re overly competitive with peers
A little competition is normal, but if your child feels they must always be better than others, it might reflect pressure to outperform.
They panic over small setbacks
A bad grade, a lost game, or a missed answer spirals into tears or meltdowns? That’s often linked to fear of not living up to expectations.
They seek constant validation
If your child always needs reassurance that they’ve done a “good job,” it could be because they’re trying hard to meet your unspoken standards.
They’re afraid to try new things
When a child avoids anything where success isn’t guaranteed, it might mean they feel too much pressure to always be the best.
They talk negatively about themselves
Phrases like “I’m not good enough” or “I’ll never make you proud” often hint at internalised pressure stemming from high parental standards.
They rarely celebrate their own wins
Even after an achievement, they might downplay it, because they’re already stressing about what’s next or how it could’ve been better.
