5. They view conflict as an opportunity for growth.

“Conflict” doesn’t exactly sound like something anyone wants in their relationship. However, Blanco and Gomez have a different and, frankly, refreshingly mature way of handling their rough patches.

“We don’t argue like that,” Blanco explained on Shetty’s podcast. “I feel like we just have conversations…[Selena] will go, ‘I’m feeling a little irritated, and I need 25 minutes,’” explained Blanco, who’s happy to give her that time. (Though he added they’ll reconnect within a few minutes. Still, it’s that patience and mutual understanding that makes their conflict resolution so top-tier.)

6. They respect each other’s boundaries—and the importance of personal space.

Being codependent isn’t a good thing, since it’s important to maintain your independence and tend to your other relationships, too. At the same time, though, you understandably don’t want a dynamic in which you’re barely seeing or talking with each other.

Navigating that sweet spot can be tough, but Blanco and Gomez seem to have found the perfect balance. “I don’t have to be on top of her every second. She doesn’t have to be on top of me every second we’re together,” Blanco told Shetty. “We’re both highly independent people, but we’re both little mushes who need to be attached at the hip.”

7. They make it a point to appreciate each other every single day.

Especially in long-term relationships, it’s easy to accidentally take your SO for granted. However, Blanco makes sure his fiancée knows just how much she means to him: In fact, “Every day when I wake up, I tell her how beautiful she is,” Blanco said on The Drew Barrymore Show.

He elaborated on why he does this while talking to Shetty too: “I want her to know that every day, I don’t take anything for granted,” he said. “Last night, we were in the pool…and I was just like, you’re so beautiful. And I don’t mean that just physically. You can feel it—there’s a ring, an aura around her that exudes warmth.”

8. They let each other shine without feeling threatened.

In a healthy relationship, there’s no room for competition: You’re a team, after all, not rivals—and Blanco and Gomez (two of the most successful players in the music industry) are a perfect example of this.